Constrained or open experience

Hi Jack and you all,

I am not sure if I really understand the meaning of the english words and if they represent, what I want to say. So I try to explain an example of experience in the field or the “space” in which experience can appear or is communicated.
So in the last phonecall Jack was talking about a somehow constraining way, we often think, react or experience in the same way. Entering a situation when somebody was really angry und excited about me and my son, because we were too late for dinner, I “normally” would have reacted in a constraining way with specific emotions: I start to defense or apologize and/or getting angry too. This time I was very relaxed and focusing at the “noncontent layers” and surroundings of the situation: watching the birds in the garden, feeling the atmosphere in the room, the mood or reaction of the other persons, the circumsstances of the situation, the extent or degree of anger of the angry person, his appearance (somehow exhausted after preparing the meal and having been very busy), my own sensations and feelings…. so my experience this time was not as emotional as I expected it to be, but somehow more richer and added by a smell of  compassion and asthonishment about the freedom, I really have to experience. That is, what I wanted to say during the last call , that we somehow “allow a specific reality to appear or show up”.

Is this the direction what you want to explain about the field communique or space, which “makes it possible for things to show up” as a “matrix for appearance”?

Karin